Kelly Clarkson’s Stronger (What Doesn’t Kill You) is a song that can read through to many people in many instances throughout life. As does Britney Spears’s Stronger. I have included both on the playlist this evening for two reasons. One, they both convey a similar message “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” and two, Tim and I actually had a heated debate one night about which song was better.
That was a great debate, and one I would often instigate him into. he was ALWAYS team Britney, she could do no wrong in his eyes. He stood by her through the 2007 meltdown and head shaving, through the tragic attempt at a comeback a year of so later with the live performance where she literally walked back and forth and let people dance around her and she couldn’t even keep her lip sync on track. It was like a train wreck you couldn’t look away from. But Tim was a faithful, devoted fan. He was about a step away from the youtuber Chris Crocker’s video of “Leave Britney Alone”.
But back to point, it was so easy to get him riled up by comparing anyone to Britney (or Cher, but that’s another story). I often would get him going by saying Christina Aguilera was better, or Kelly Clarkson, or any pop artist really. Then the debate was on! His love for Britney never waivered, much like his love for me did not. He knew I was only getting him going and he always let me do it. Some of our best conversations always started as arguements or debates and they never ended harshly. I miss that.
But as to the actual meaning behind the song, I agree wholeheartedly. What doesn’t kill you, defintely makes you stronger. There were times after his passing that I thought I’d die of a broken heart. There were even a couple times I wished I would. But I survived and though I haven’t completely figured it out yet, I’m sure there is a reason why. Getting through the pain, the loss, the grief, the anger, the denial, and the sadness has defintely made me a stronger person.
You kind of learn a lot about yourself in times of trouble. When you suffer a loss like I did, you get that feeling that you can’t go on. You aren’t sure how other people do it. There are times that you don’t want to go on at all. But you do. Every minute of every day is a struggle to make it to the next, but you make it. Your world has fallen apart and you are grasping at sraws trying to hold on to the smallest things to keep from losing it all, but eventually you get to that point where you rise up and realize that you have the power to move past the pain. The hurt never really goes away, but you learn to not let it consume you.
That’s what happened for me. I hope I never have to go through an ordeal like this again, but if I do, I know I can. I have proven to myself that I AM STRONGER.
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