I asked to give advice, as I stated I wanted to do that in this blog from its inception, and this was the first question I got.
Here’s my question. How do you deal with depression when your wife turns out to be a whore, when you feel like taking yourself out?
Well DD, in my opinion, if your wife is truly a whore, she isn’t worth ending your life over. No one is. Suicide is never the answer, but finding peace is.
Depression is a serious issue to deal with. I’ve been there, I know. And being depressed over someone that was supposed to love you unconditionally is the worst. There is no sure fire way to fight this type of depression, but the first step is staying positive.
There are ways to cope with depression. The most effective is starting to move on. Said whore is always going to be your (I’m assuming) ex-wife, but she’s not always going to have a hold on your heart. You will probably have trust issues for a while, but hopefully you will find the one person that makes you love again.
Another way is leaning on friends and family. People who are there for you unconditionally. They can be both a shoulder to cry on, and a great distraction from the sadness you seem to be experiencing.
A third option, and my personal favorite, is spend some time finding yourself. I know it’s hard to get out of that negative frame of mind when you are alone, but spend some time for yourself. Reacquaint yourself with things you have enjoyed in the past, that may have fallen off your radar recently. Make a list of goals you hope to achieve, and a plan to reach them (nothing outrageous or unobtainable). Get a hobby to occupy your time, and distract your mind…maybe something that keeps your hands AND mind busy.
As far as your wife being a whore, well, you can’t control other people. It’s horrible she’s put you in this situation, but sometimes you have to cut your losses. Always keep in mind it is not your fault, you didn’t make her cheat, you didn’t make her act the way she does. Taking the burden of her actions on your shoulders is just going to make you feel worse. I know it’s hard not to concentrate on the negative, but you have to keep the positive in mind too.
You can get through this. Stay positive and don’t let the faults of others be your cross to bear.