Today the Supreme Court starts to hear arguments on a topic that has been controversial for years, but in my opinion is ridiculous that it had to go that far. Love and how you choose to express it is not something that should have to be decided on by a federal court. The sanctity of my marriage should not have to be compared to the sanctity of my straight brother’s marriage. There is no difference. We love who we love and it is a human right to be able to express that with a legally binding marriage contract the same as anyone else.
Straight couples get to marry regardless of differences in faith, race, social status, financial differences, and age with no questions asked. Why is it an issue if two men who are in love want to have the same right? It was illegal to have an interracial marriage until the supreme court struck that down in 1967 (Loving v. Virginia). Love sees no color, gender, religion, or any other factor.
The laws concerning same-sex couples have gone in our favor a lot in recent years. For instance, though we are not legally married, I have my husband on my insurance, something that (nearly) ten years ago when we got together was unheard of. But because we are not legally married, I still have to pay additional taxes to insure him. If we were legally married in the state of Ohio, there would be no extra tax. In another example, if one of us were to meet an unfortunate end, our families currently have the right to exclude the surviving person from any estate money, property, or anything else that person leaves behind. Our families wouldn’t do that to the other (we both are fully accepted into the other’s family) but we aren’t all same-sex couples. There are still couples to which that would apply.
The majority of the arguments I have heard against same-sex marriage all have to deal with religious grounds. I’m not condemning anyone for what they believe, nor will I ever, whether I agree or not. But there is a separation of church and state in this country, so I think that your religious views should not dictate the laws of everyone they affect. A lot of opponents to marriage equality are worried that a change in law would disrupt the sanctity of marriage. So does divorce, don’t you think? And that has been legal for centuries. The actual argument being heard today is whether to strike the definition of marriage from “one man and one woman” to “two persons”. By letting same-sex marriage through, it will not be opening doors to polygamy, human/animal marriage, or any of the weird off the wall things I’ve heard the opposition come up with. It just clarifies that two (and only two) people in love have the right to be legally binding to one another.
My (potential) marriage would affect no one but me and my husband. Our family and friends would be happy for us, would be a part of our lives, and would support the decision we make to be “officially” married. But at the end of the day, the marriage itself would be ours and ours alone. The only ever people it could possibly effect would be the children we may someday have.
Though it may not be decided until summer, and the actual laws may not take effect until after that, I hope the Supreme Court makes the right decision in favor of love.