Over the course of my 37 years on this planet, I’ve had to say goodbye to a lot of people. Some due to death, others just because they left my life first whatever reason. In most cases, it has been one of the hardest words to say.
I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. That doesn’t make people making an exit from your life any easier though. Sometimes people die, I get that. In some cases, though it is sad, it is for the best. They may be in pain or suffering that you just don’t understand because you aren’t them, in which case it is sad that they have passed away, but they are no longer having to suffer through what they are going through. And while death is sad, and sometimes tragic for the remaining family and friends, I believe you should celebrate the life that that person had. Be it a family member or a friend, that person was a part of your life and you will always have the memories you shared with them.
Sometimes people leave your life for other reasons though. Friends drift apart, people get divorced, a work bud may find a job elsewhere, you break up with a significant other, etc. It is sad to be the person left alone, but everything happens for a reason, right? When one door closed, another opens. Maybe you weren’t meant to be with a person, maybe your friendship that was based on work can’t survive if you no longer work together, maybe you have grown as a person while your (now former) friend has not reached that level yet, maybe it was an abusive relationship, there could be any number of reasons. But remember, that it may have been for the better.
Losing someone, for any reason, may seem tough at first. Just remember to learn from the time you had together, find yourself in that moment and it will make you a stronger person.
This advice won’t make the parting easier, but hopefully it will give you hope that it gets better. Life goes on and you must go on with it. Being stuck in a certain time frame only holds you back as an individual.
But goodbyes are hard…